Things were going and then...Chima...I tried my best, but it is Chima steakhouse after all. The dinner was a surprise outing; my willpower was sulking somewhere inside me like an abused child. Not only was this dinner way off "the plan," but it also revealed yet another weird thing I didn't know about my husband until now. While I tried to cut away any fat from my revolving meat, I had the following conversation:
Me: Would you eat this fat?
Hub: Why would I do that?
Me: Let's just say that I'm a hostage and the only way to get me back is to eat it.
Hub: Yeah, I'd eat it. I mean, I'd eat it anyway. It's just meat fat.
Me: So, you wouldn't eat the fat to keep me? You'd just eat it?
Hub: Yeah. Eating the fat isn't a big deal.
I immediately had a flashback to Ross and Rachel from Friends (you'll know it if you're a fan). This was followed by anger because he wouldn't eat the fat to keep me. Then I got grossed out and flipped my meat coin to the black "No thanks" side. Does anyone else nonchalantly eat the fat?! Gross. He's lucky he's an avid bike rider or he'd be the fat.
Anyway, I didn't do too bad, but I wasn't a svelte saint either. Obviously, I had to weigh myself immediately the next morning before work. Goodbye my hard earned 12! The next few days I was on overdrive, trying to fix what I had messed up. This morning I called on the scale again and it said I had gained 43 pounds. In 3 days. For a moment, I actually thought someone had switched my low sodium V8 and yogurt lunches with lard. Then I forced my dog to go on it and it said he weighs 198; I know he's a debonaire 93.
When my heart finally slowed, I realized my new fancy scale is a sham. The verdict is still out on whether I will be forgiven for my sins. In the meantime, I have to figure out what's wrong with my cruel, cruel scale.
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This blog has lost its way. It no longer is about a person's weight loss journey. It is simply about a fat person who talks about weight loss but hasn't done really anything to get there. If you are serious about weight loss you don't continuously splurge eating out.
You asked in your last entry what you should blog about and your decision is to blog about yet another incident of failure to maintain any willpower and your scale. Cmon already.
To the spineless, gutless coward known as Anon April 8, 2011 6:56 AM
If you hate the blog, stop reading it. I feel sorry for you, being a person who gets your jollies from belittling people who struggle with something you don't struggle with. You feel big and bad now, don't you?
I hope you find a good shrink for your mental issues.
Melissa - I am curious how you found your way to Chima. I've been there once, on a corporate outing (otherwise, I have no shot at ever being able to afford to eat there). It's definitely no place for someone striving to lose weight to go. Best meat I have ever tasted in my life, and I bet I did gain 43 pounds from that one dinner!
From what you have posted, I think your husband needs to be more supportive. I'm thinking about this meal and time you posted about getting milkshakes after a movie - it doesn't sound like he's helping to hold you accountable. I know I could be very wrong, but that's the impression I get from what you write.
I hope these "bad days" become less and less frequent for you.
There are always too many 'fat enablers' on this blog looking to blame other people. Anon @6:56 is right. How does J know that Anon doesn't struggle with weight. I personally struggle with my weight but I'm getting tired of Melissa's attitude towards weight loss. She should take a cue from Dan and get moving.
And it's not her husband or anyone eleses responsibility to hold her accountable. She is an adult and it's time to act like it.
Hey J....how do you know that Anon hasn't struggle with weight issues? It gets old reading posts coming to the defense of this blogger. She CHOSE to do this and as such, should be prepared for all kinds of feedback, negative and positive. J sounds like just another citizen from the United States of the Offended. Get over it. As for Melissa, I don't believe she truly wants to lose weight. Not a priority right now. It's going to take something like the doctor telling her she's a diabetic for her to come to her senses and change her lifestyle. Good luck.
Melissa, thanks for your truthful posts. I have had similar struggles, but have chosen not to share them.
It takes curious to share the good and bad parts of your weight loss journey.
It is a journey and sometimes you get lost along the way.
This is typical for most people trying to lose weight. If it weren't true, losing weight would be as easy as pie.
You know that I am your biggest cheerleader, but do agree with the other comments. You need to get your husband to understand just how important this is for you.
Get a bike and race him down the road.
If you both need an incentive to get into the game, think about your future kids. You must learn healthier eating and a healthier lifestyle so that your kids have a better chance at life.
If you want to lose your fat then get serious and be prepared to suffer. Your fat represents indulgences of the past, and to lose it will be the inverse of that indulgence. (An unpleasurable experience).
Look in the mirror, if you are happy with how you look then drop the facade of trying to lose weight. If you are not happy, stop trying to have it all. Buy some old Jack LaLanne books and follow his advice. New methods are often too complicated.
The time will pass regardless, whether you are losing weight or not. The only question is whether or not you will look good and be healthy at the end of a given time period.
Why in the world would someone who allegedly loves and supports you take you out for a "surprise" meal at a restaurant where you can't stick to your diet? Why in the world would you allow yourself to go?
This whole episode shows an utter lack of focus and dedication to weight loss.
You seem obsessed with the mechanism of weight loss - the scale, the clothes, the shoes, the gym. But, you actually have to eat right and exercise to lose weight, not just buy the gizmos and make fun of sweaty people in lycra.
I'm sorry, this blog post makes me irate. Why doesn't the blogger go spend one half-day with people who, through no fault of their own, have the diseases she will have in the next 10-15 years solely because she is fat. Go spend a day with a 5 year old with type 1 diabetes and ask yourself if your steak dinner or weekends of pizza and beer are worth having type 2, which you WILL get.
Spend a day with an 85 year old with heart disease and imagine that for you at age 55 or 60.
Go to a park and watch parents/grandparents play with their kids. Then, imagine you sitting on a bench at age 50 being unable to play because your joints are shot and you have no stamina due to morbid obesity.
Is your fat lifestyle worth any of this? Apparently so.
I hate to say it, but it seems Melissa has the least willpower of this group. Both Nancy and Dan seem far more dedicated to making a change in their lives whereas Melissa continues to cheat and splurge on things like a dinner out to a Brazilian steakhouse. I mean, really, can you think of a worse place to go if you're supposed to be dieting?
Melissa - you need to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself if this is something that you really want. If you do, you need to make a legitimate commitment to it, otherwise you're going to be fat forever, and have a greatly shortened life.
Melissa, small changes done often net BIG results.
Don't give up and gain strength from even the naysayers. Imagine their faces at the end of the year when you have lost your 70+ pounds!
Nice supportive spouse you have there, geez.
I lost 55lbs last year and have kept it off. To do this, I had to completely and entirely change how I viewed food. Food is meant to nourish the physical body, not the emotional mind. You have to understand nutrition and what your body needs, then give it those things and only those things. Only allow yourself these indulgences once every couple of weeks, and even then you should remain disciplined about what you eat. You should also start a daily cardio regimen. Start small and work your way up. If you aren't panting and gasping for breath at the end of it, you're going too easy on yourself. Look into the Tabata Protocol. It can literally melt the fat off of your body, if you're willing to put in the effort. You have to believe in yourself and believe that you can do this. Make it your mission, and completely avoid anything that gets in the way of completing your mission.
J said..."To the spineless, gutless coward known as Anon April 8, 2011 6:56 AM If you hate the blog, stop reading it...."
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So says the spineless, gutless coward known as "J".
Aww, gees. For southern pple some of ya all are mean. I wish encouragement to the blogger on her journey. Switch to beans from meat :) less fat, more fiber
I lost 30lbs last year and so far, on-track to lose the other 30 this year (down 14lbs this year so far). Two things I can share that I have learned:
1) Life goes on even when you are on a diet. My point? You will only succeed through permanent lifestyle changes, not temporary fixes "while you lose weight". You shouldn't try to have the "willpower" not to go out. You should learn to still go to a steak house and have a steak and salad instead of baked potato, fully loaded, etc.
2) You must get your heart rate up! And i'm not talking about a leisurely 30-45 min walk. I'm talking an hour on the treadmill or elliptical everyday and working out hard enough to where you can't carry on a conversation. You will feel fantastic afterward. More importantly, thinking of how hard you have to work to burn those calories will make it very easy to find the so called "willpower" to make better food choices. Trust me! Good luck:)
I did the same thing to myself last weekend when I went to Cantina with some friends. I looked at the menu online before I went, and there really wasn't anything that was going to help me stick to my diet on it. So I went and ate what I wanted to and topped it off with a margarita! I felt absolutely guilty and scale obsessed after that too. The only thing that made me feel better was throwing in more cardio time. I didn't gain any of the weight I've lost back, but I also didn't lose as much as I know I could have. It was a tough lesson for me (one meal does not make or break a diet), but I also still exercised and even did extra cardio to make up for my indulgence. It's tough for me to find that balance between being healthy and being obsessed. This weekend won't contain any crazy food indulgences but it will have a lot of time spent outside enjoying the warm weather being active and lets face it some wine will be included lol. I'm really excited for the warm weather and for the pools to open so I can start water jogging, you should look into it too :)
Missy, seems it doesn't pay to be too honest. What good is life if you can't indulge once in a while. I don't think these judgmental people know how to read too well, because it didn't appear to me that you were blaming your husband at all. If you can't find the humor and enjoyment in this blog, please stop reading it.
Oh please! Indulge once in a while? How do you think she got in the condition she's in? She's been indulging for years. Once she gets herself in some form of healthy condition THEN she can think about indulging once in a while. And I'll bet her husband is fat too. If he's not on board with the same program as she is then she is going to have a tough time making progress. Humor and enjoyment? Your health is not something to toy with. Diabetes, hypertension, etc. are not things you want to fool around with.
Fat people are the most selfish people in America. They overconsume natural resources. They overconsume our healthcare resources. I read recently that one of the bizarre things about the obesity epidemic in America is that it increases our reliance on foreign oil through increased farming needs and lower fuel economy. Apparently it takes more gas in your car to shuttle you around if you are extra beefy, which makes sense. Let's not even talk about the tent sized clothing required.
Melissa, disregard the tasteless previous post and simply hit the gym with a vengeance this week :)
Maybe the last "Anonymous" post was reaching a bit but they are not far off. The fact is that health related problems that are obesity related come to billions of dollars per year. Some of that is covered by the obese but much of it is passed along to rest of society through increased insurance rates. I now have a very healthy family but we pay outrageous insurance premiums. Why? Because we are absorbing the cost to care for unhealthy people in this country. Granted, there's more to it than that but it's a huge factor. When over half of North Carolinians are obese....that's a huge problem. BTW, Melissa...get with it and get serious about this weight loss thing this week. Let's hear some good numbers for a change.
YUM CHIMA! I can't wait to try that place, however Melissa, you should try and plan for those type of events. Look at the menu before hand and try to find the best choice so you aren't impulsive to go with a higher calorie dinner. Also, remember your plate should be 1/2 veggies, 1/4 protein, and 1/4 starch... if need be, after you get your dinner, ask for a smaller dish... cut your portions down, and eat from the smaller dish. Take home the extras for another meal. Its like twice the fun and not as bad for the diet! :)
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